The “Big No” Factors: What Singapore Men Really Hate in Women’s Dating Profiles
Why the Studies Matter
Channel NewsAsia’s latest fan‑fare tells us that men who brag about their gains and caveats for adventure get more right‑swipes than the same guys who’ll shout “I love gaming & anime.”
So the writers decided to flip the script: What turns Singaporean men off when they read a girl’s profile? Below is a grad‑reports‑style survey of the real‑talk from the front lines of the Swipers.
The Hot‑Take Reactions
1⃣ “Too Woke?” – Alex T, 26
“Girls that are too woke – they come off as pretentious. Put a they/them in the bio, and I’ll just roll my eyes and swipe left.”“If a girl hates men just because she’s on a dating app full of them, that’s a big ‘no’.”“Shealty, she moans about patriarchy but expects me to foot the bill – not a good mix of accountability and entitlement.”What to avoid: Too much political preaching, hogging the conversation without a real share of the sweet spot.
2⃣ “Localised, Not My Type” – Charles S, 31
“I can spot a mismatch in the photos alone. If you’re too localised, you probably’ll never be my match.”“It’s not one sign. I look at education, job, dress‑code, typing style, and, let’s face it, looks.”“Girls who flaunt a ready‑made look with a fancy bag and a ‘no real job’ vibe are a fast left swipe.”What to avoid: Over‑fashioning, and a lack of life authenticity.
3⃣ “Animal‑Ear Photos? No.” – Dave W, 26
“If your pictures are all animal‑ears floating above your head, it’s a no‑go.”“Heavy filters? Extremely suspicious; it means there’s something you’re hiding.”What to avoid: Super‑filtering that looks like a mask over the authentic you.
4⃣ “No ‘NO ONS, NO FWB, NO HOOKUPS’” – Ashton C, 25
“I’m not a fan of bios that shout ‘NO ONS’ etc. It reads like bragging to prove you’re the catch.”“A barren, self‑critical group photo also tells me you’re lacking confidence.”What to avoid: Over‑definition of what you don’t want.
5⃣ “Intelligent Conversation” – Brian Y, 25
“Mentioning ‘I like intelligent conversations’ feels unnecessary and pretentious.”What to avoid: Coming off as intellectual brag, when everyone wants a good talk.
6⃣ “Filters Make Me Feel Cold” – Sean T, 24
“Filters show that you’re hiding imperfections and still immature.”“Long, masterpiece bio brags let me know what you’re about before I even get to click.”“Demand‑heavy lists (‘HATE smokers’ etc.) are a swift no‑tinger.”What to avoid: Over‑filtering and an excessive list of rules.
Bottom Line: Keep It Simple, Real & Respectful
So if you’re a Singaporean woman looking to score in the “Right” column, remember these red‑flags and keep your profile upbeat, authentic, and a tad bit playful.
