Open Up About Condoms: Why Dads Need to Talk to Sons
Because conversation is the key that keeps teens safe, a fresh study shows that dads often fall short when it comes to explaining the nitty‑gritty of condom use. Yet, the odds are on the side of those who make the chat happen.
What the Study Revealed
- Researchers sat down with 25 father‑son teams from a high‑risk NYC neighborhood.
- Both sides had discussed sex, but most dads were less than confident explaining how to use a condom properly.
- Teens were aware that “delaying sex and using protection” is important, but lacked the details that make the difference.
Dad’s Real‑World Dilemma
Most fathers endorsed condoms on a high level, yet they struggled with specifics: from when to put it on to what not to do, like leaving it off for too long, or letting it slip. The dads, averaging 44 and having grown up in the 1980s, were raised by a system that leaned heavily on abstinence, not on how to keep it safe when you’re in the mood.
What Teens Want From Their Fathers
A 17‑year‑old in the study cried out, “I want him to say something like, ‘This is important for my future.’ Without that, I don’t know where to go.” He asked for plain, step‑by‑step instructions: “Just the right way to put on a condom and what to watch out for.”
Why Dads Also Need Up‑to‑Date Info
Those who shared the conversation gaps admitted they needed quick guides, like cheat sheets or handy tutorials, to explain condom mechanics and “common mistakes.” They also realized that talking to their sons would naturally polish their own habits.
What This Means For Everyone
- Open dialogue matters more than how many times you say “listen up.” The more honest and ongoing the conversation, the better the future.
- STDs are on the rise—especially in communities with high teen pregnancy rates—so a little knowledge goes a long way.
- If parents feel stuck, get your doctor involved. They’re ready to break things down without the awkwardness.
