Why Ghosting Is a Bad Habit (And How to Stop It)
Ghosting—just vanishing from someone’s life like a bad magician—has become the new normal. We’re all guilty of a few “disappear‑and‑hope‑they‑forget” moments. But if you’re anything like me, you’ll want to cut the habit and give people the courtesy they deserve.
Why People Opt for Vanishing Acts
- No empathy – They don’t care enough to have a real conversation.
- Fear of conflict – Facing a disagreement feels like stepping into a lion’s den.
- Least resistance – It’s easier to just click “unfollow” than to sit down and talk.
Before dating apps, you’d have to call someone back or go through a lot of texting to prove you’re still there. Now, accessibility has turned people into ghost‑hoops who can slip away in a few keystrokes.
Why Bummer‑Breakers Should Say Goodbye with Class
Can you imagine getting ghosted? It’s awkward, hurtful, and you’re left chasing a perfect scenario that never happened. Instead of becoming the next “ghost,” you can soften the blow by giving someone closure.
Do It the Old‑School Way (No Text, No Quick Words)
UCLA’s Mehrabian study says we get 7% from our words, 38% from tone, and 55% from body language. Texts lack that one vital component – your tone. A face‑to‑face chat reduces misreadings and saves you from endless “what‑did‑you‑mean?” scenarios.
Take a Mini‑Meditation Beforehand
Deep breaths are a great weapon: count to four, exhale slowly, and reset your nervous system. It quiets the brain’s emotional reactors and gives you room for a calm, honest conversation.
Speak with “I” Statements—Like a Gentle Ninja
Instead of “You’re wrong, and I’m done,” say: “I feel we’re not connecting like we both hoped, and I think it’s best to step back. I don’t want to feel stuck or pressured.” This helps avoid blame and makes it about your feeling rather than their shortcomings.
End with Kindness (Your Sweet‑Tooth Moment)
Close the chat with a nice note: “I truly think you’ll find someone who’s perfect for you.” Give them a pep talk—like the friend you want them to keep in your corner.
Final Thought
Ghosting isn’t a harmless shortcut; it’s a betrayal of the person’s effort to connect. By choosing the “high‑road” approach—phone, breath, and a gentle voice—you’re extending respect both to yourself and to the other person. Smell the victory, and steer clear of the shadowy world of silent disappearing. Cheers to honest chats!
